Asking thoughtful questions might be one of the most simple yet powerful ways to cultivate deeper fellowship with other brothers and sisters in Christ. A timely question from a believer who listens well and genuinely cares can open the door for greater understanding, richer conversation, and more meaningful friendships. If we want to move beyond surface-level relationships, we need to take the initiative to ask questions with love and intention.

Here are a few questions that you can use to help deepen your relationships with other believers. I’ve found many of them to be particularly useful in discipleship or small group settings:

  • How’s your walk with the Lord? What are you encouraged about or struggling with?
  • How has the Lord been at work in your life recently? How can I encourage or pray for you more specifically?
  • I’d love to hear about your time in God’s Word. What are you reading? What are you learning? Are there any verses, promises, or truths that you’ve been meditating on? 
  • Tell me about your prayer life. What are you praying about? How have you seen the Lord answering your prayers? Is there anything in your life that you’d like me to pray about?
  • Are there unbelievers in your life that you’re especially burdened about or praying for? How can I pray for them? What opportunities has the Lord given you to share Christ with them? 
  • What sins have you been struggling with? What temptations are you facing right now? What are some of your biggest struggles or trials?
  • How have you grown spiritually over the last few months? Where do you need to grow? How can I encourage you as you seek to grow?

Note: Some of these questions were taken from an article I recently read on discipleship.